Lifestyle · Couples

The Independents

The bond is between the two of you, and that is the premise.

The Independents are fully in the lifestyle and equally clear about what that does and does not mean for their relationship. They are warm in the room and deliberate about what they bring home from it. Emotional connection outside the couple is something they manage thoughtfully rather than something they avoid, and they tend toward connections where this is understood and matched from the beginning.

You tend to

/Name what the connection is before it begins, because clarity is kind
/Find that your best connections in the lifestyle have been with people who matched your emotional architecture
/Keep the friendship warm without the boundary becoming blurry
/Be known in the community for being clear and genuine at the same time
/Have little patience for situations where what you said was not what was heard

Connects well with

/The Connoisseurs (couples) — shared clarity about what they are looking for
/The Cavalier (men's) — he is equally direct

Not to be confused with

The Connoisseurs. The Connoisseurs are selective about who; you are architectural about what.

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